Would you date/marry a guy younger than you? If no, why not?
13.06.2025 14:48
All of my points are based on my own personal observations and what had the most statistical probability. Every group will have exceptions so please do not consider my answer to paint all (younger) men in the same light.
But I sense that somehow, I might be even more wiser and experienced in my 50s that I'd probably no longer prefer that age group even.
But the age difference became very palpable soon:
Why do I want to be caught sucking dick by my wife?
As is well established, on an average, younger men earn lesser than older men.
Disclaimer: Not all men, but far too many.
Given this background, I'll tell you why I'll not date younger men.
I have seldom been wrong in my judgement of people, though there are times I've overridden my judgment and come to the same conclusion that I had obtained before I went the hard way.
While there are all kinds of people in this world, it is fact that men with higher earning wives aren't exactly the happiest lot.
Compared to all that, older men have been a breeze. They are more graceful. They are more settled. They know how to treat a lady. They aren't so dependent and childish.
A working woman risks having a resentful and uncooperative partner if she settles for a younger man who earns lesser/is less professionally established than her.
I've had to chase/block/ignore so many guys like this who came lusting after me from my Insta handles and other fora. Without fail, all of them were younger men.
Even those men who might have a genuine connect with an older woman will be teased by their male friends with this moniker of “aunty veriyan”.
What's an uncomfortable truth you've learned to accept?
Firstly let's rule out the obvious point of money
He cared too much about the opinions of his friends and peers. I mean he couldn't even tell them he was dating me because they'd tease him. Too childish that. I'm a no nonsense person.
I've also made it a point to reprimand my own friends, who, I'm ashamed to admit, did not see the fault in their behaviour. It has gotten through to some of them, but some still are incorrigible.
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He was a good and decent guy with none of the above toxic traits. He was respectful, caring and responsible.
Once you get the hang of quickly assessing people, you can save your time and energy. I considered every date an investment for a potential partner.
Men will also utilize older women for their sexual interests, aka, “aunty veriyan”(loosely translated as one who lusts after an aunty). They will often lie to that woman so that she thinks it's something meaningful and continues to give him sex while he's clear that she's just for his lust.
Despite these odds, I still dated a younger guy once.
Now this guy was 28 and maybe, I'd have had a better experience if I were 50 and had dated a man in his mid 30s to 40s. Age does improve many people.
I wasn't aware of his age and would have refused had i known he was two years younger than me, but I only got to know much later.
Why do I sweat (mostly on face) when I eat usually spicy food?
The disgusting part is, these men will call a woman aunty (who is technically your mother's or father's sister) and yet proceed to sexualize and lust after her. Talk about closeted incestuous feelings.
I'm 34 and my husband is slightly more than a decade older than me and he's been a perfect fit for me. I think there is a sweet spot and this was it. Or he's my sweet spot. I don't know. But experience tells me that age has a lot to do with how fine he is, like good wine.
Women who have been married or have had kids are by default termed as “aunties” even if they're the same age or even much younger than those men.
I am married now, so dating is out of the question anyway but what I do have is experience in dating.
Having said all this, my own brother is in a successful relationship with an older woman and she's not the first woman he dated who was older than he. So, I think, it also has a lot to do with personality.
No.
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He was still living with his parents while I had been independent for years now. It'd have been ok, except that like almost all grown children (especially men) still living with their parents, he was way too dependent. On one instance, he said that his mother made his bed everyday. It was an instant shocker for me.
God forbid if a woman is in her 30s and heavyset. She automatically becomes a “koluttha aunty”(plump aunty).
Let's put two and two together.
What makes you feel guilty the most?
He was not at a stage in life where he wanted to commit while I was only interested in a serious relationship with potential for marriage. In fact he didn't know what he wanted.
I had already had more life experience than him by that time. I'd experienced years of a career, marriage, childbirth divorce. He had finished college, stayed home for a year and just started a career and had never had a proper serious relationship in life. He had a hard time following my thought process because life experience changes you.
Secondly, many if not most men, especially Indian men, just are not ready for the mental attitude required to date a woman older than themselves. They term older women as aunties.
I haven't faced this because I'm extremely selective about men, but I've seen a friend doing it, and one friend facing it.
Women are generally smarter than men of the same age but an older man is at least wiser and calmer than younger men to make up for the gap. That's why, I'd any day take an older man than a younger one.
Somehow, men seem to lag on emotional and mental scales compared to women.
I have many men in my circles. I have seen almost every single one of them shamelessly call a woman “aunty” even if they're themselves in their 30s to 40s and the lady is at max 5 years older than them or less.
I have dated my fair share of men, and also screened a lot of potential dates. In fact, I would screen a huge number of guys before I zeroed in on whom to meet, then from there, whom to date and then, whom to get into a relationship with.
To these men an older woman is not a human being but a sex object, thanks but no thanks to the porn industry that has a whole different category of MILF.
There will be en number of men in this forum and others that will claim that women prefer older men because of the higher income.
He didn't know what he wanted from life even. Wasn't sure about his career. Wasn't sure what else he'd do if not this. I was not at a stage in life where I could wait around to see.
What hasn't been reported as widely is the jealousy men feel towards wives who earn more, men who become resentful and even actively sabotage their lives out of their unresolved feelings.